If you are constantly being told to expect more from yourself, you’ll never find your “real” self. Instead of setting overly high standards, set the bar so low that you’ll never reach it. If you don’t know where you want to be, you’ll never find your mark.
And that’s kind of the point, isn’t it? If you don’t try to find yourself, youll never find your “real self.” The same goes for everyone else.
One of the most common complaints about the online world is that people try to find their “real selves.
How important is it to make your self-esteem shine before you can go on the offensive? Just get rid of those really good and bad people and get your self-esteem fixed.
The problem is when people try to find their real selves they end up not knowing where they want to be or who they really are. So they try to make up the parts of themselves that they think will make them more attractive. But if youre not trying to make yourself more attractive, youll never find your mark. Youll never find your true self.
When you say things like “I have to be more attractive because people want to date me,” it sounds like youre talking about your appearance. But the truth is there is a huge difference between what you think is attractive and what actually is. You can fix your appearance, but you can’t fix your self. To be your true self you have to discover your true self.
What’s that? The most important thing you have to do is to spend your life trying to make yourself more attractive. When you’re trying to get more attractive, you’re trying to make someone attractive to you.
As a rule, women are attracted to men who are tall and have broad shoulders. The opposite is true for men: tall men are more attracted to short women. A tall woman with a broad shoulder is still attractive to a tall man, but a tall woman with a narrow shoulder is less attractive to a tall man.
I think what this all comes down to is this: When you are thinking about the way you look, you are thinking about the way you want to be perceived. You can’t look good without doing something about it. So instead of trying to look good, try looking really good.
All these high expectations for ourselves come down to our thoughts. If we’re not thinking about our expectations then the way we think about them, the way we act on them. We are constantly striving to reach a certain standard of beauty, good behaviour, and intelligence. Trying to be attractive, good-looking, and smart are very difficult goals to achieve.